Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Welcome to our blog

   Welcome to our adoption blog! As you all now know, Jesse and I are diving into another adoption. After bringing our son, Asher, home in September of 2009 my whole life has changed. I never thought I could love someone as much as I love Asher. Even though I did not give birth to him or share the same blood, he was in every sense of the word, my son. The connection was instant for me. I believe I was meant to be this child’s mother and Jesse was meant to be Asher’s father. This incredible feeling has only made my desire for another child grow stronger. So here we are again at square one.
    We have decided to go with Korea again. We know the program is reliable, and we fit all the requirements. Most importantly, Korea now holds a special spot in our hearts. It is the country our son is from. Slowly Korea is phasing out international adoption and is said to stop it all together in 2012. So this is our last chance to adopt from Korea. We are not in a financial situation to pay for the adoption outright like we did with Asher’s adoption. Our savings accounts and earnings for the past few years have gone towards the expenses of his adoption. We are going to be saving, budgeting, and trusting God that through these means and  through the help of our friends and family that we will be able to bring another child home. We thank everyone who helps and supports our decision to adopt again. Where there is a will there is a way and we will find a way to make this work.
 Here are some facts about adoptions from Korea 
    An average of 1 out of every 250 Korean babies born are given up for adoption. Adoption is simply not accepted in Korea. Korean traditional society places significant weight on paternal family ties, bloodlines, and purity of ‘race’. This is why there are so many more boys for adoption than girls. Boys carry on the family name so girls are more likely to be adopted by Koreans. Children of mixed race or those without fathers are not easily accepted in Korean society.Many families would go through excessive and expensive procedures such as surrogacy or in vitro fertilization to ensure that their offspring are at least related than to accept a child of a complete stranger into their family. Korean citizenship is directly related to bloodlines. Children not a part of a Korean family (orphans) are not considered legal citizens of Korea. Another reason is the stigma of adoption. Ninety-five percent of families who do adopt choose babies less than a month old so that they can pass them off as their natural born offspring, overlooking older adoptable children. This is why all babies from Korea are 6 months or older. Furthermore, the rate of adoption disruption( orphans are given back to orphanage) among domestic adoption in Korea is outrageous. It makes me terribly sad to learn that Korea will end international adoption because all these babies will go without homes. They will remain in social welfare.

1 comment:

  1. Hi Paige,
    My sister Kelly recently met you at church. We adopted our daughter from China and lived in Seoul for two years. We love Korea and China!!! We wish you all the best for your adoption!